Jim's 80th, A Birthday To Remember
Celebrate Life!
This was my intent for an 80th birthday party, and with the help and encouragement of family and friends that’s exactly what we did on June 14, 2014.
I think birthdays are a good time to reflect on where we have been, where we are going, and what we are learning in the present moment. The invitation to my party included a request for people to write a statement of something learned in the last ten years. I suggested either sending these ‘learnings’ to me via email or bringing them to the party, and I promised to compile all that I received and make it available to everyone later on. I was a little nervous, wondering if anyone would actually take me up on my request.
The response was fantastic, with over 70 statements coming from family members, golf and tennis buddies, fellow residents at our retirement community, and quite a few from New Zealand, Australia and other parts of the world. At the party on June 14 we invited individuals to read their statements, and each one was greeted with laughter or thoughtful nods and enthusiastic applause.
The birthday party also included a great spread of nibbles and wine/beer, a pictorial power point of my life, a loving and humorous toast by daughter Deborah, and a memorable cake baked by daughter Amy. Over a dozen children played in the nearby swimming pool, and their spontaneity kept us from taking ourselves too seriously.
The following pages include the collection of learnings plus some pictures from the party and the toast by Deborah. I am deeply grateful for everyone’s participation and joyful presence on this wonderful day – a time to celebrate life.
This was my intent for an 80th birthday party, and with the help and encouragement of family and friends that’s exactly what we did on June 14, 2014.
I think birthdays are a good time to reflect on where we have been, where we are going, and what we are learning in the present moment. The invitation to my party included a request for people to write a statement of something learned in the last ten years. I suggested either sending these ‘learnings’ to me via email or bringing them to the party, and I promised to compile all that I received and make it available to everyone later on. I was a little nervous, wondering if anyone would actually take me up on my request.
The response was fantastic, with over 70 statements coming from family members, golf and tennis buddies, fellow residents at our retirement community, and quite a few from New Zealand, Australia and other parts of the world. At the party on June 14 we invited individuals to read their statements, and each one was greeted with laughter or thoughtful nods and enthusiastic applause.
The birthday party also included a great spread of nibbles and wine/beer, a pictorial power point of my life, a loving and humorous toast by daughter Deborah, and a memorable cake baked by daughter Amy. Over a dozen children played in the nearby swimming pool, and their spontaneity kept us from taking ourselves too seriously.
The following pages include the collection of learnings plus some pictures from the party and the toast by Deborah. I am deeply grateful for everyone’s participation and joyful presence on this wonderful day – a time to celebrate life.
Authors of Learnings
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Adamson, Larry
Ballenger, Larry & Judy Bos, Bob Bos, Carole Brackett, Bill & Ann Brassard, Mary Brough, Des Buckwalter, Paul Buntine, David & Lyn Burgess, Betsey Calkins, Bruce Castellano, Pat Chick, Carol Coates, Jessie Coon-Weller, Russ & Charlie Craig, Bill Cunningham, Bill |
Cunningham, Karlene
Davidson, Don & Cherie DeGraaff, Henry DeGraaff, Joyce Delman, Norman Dirks, Annabelle Donohue, Ginny Drummond, Richard French, Carolyn Fung, Sherman Galassi, Martha Gilmour, Bryan Gordon, Lyn & Grant Gutierrez, Andy Harasty, Jayne Harvey, Kevin Heer, Ray & Clara |
Heyne, Evelyn
Hintzglou, Peter Hoffman, Cecil Hoffman, Pat Jacobsen, Kathie Jacoby, Mary Lou Kane, Marcia Kelly, Paul King, Janet & Miles Lee, Margie Lodwick, Hedy Melrose, Marie Milham, Doug Nazarian, Noreen Orange, Norman & Jenny Pierson, Paul Poos-Benson, Steve |
Post, Judy
Robinson, Norma & Robbie Schlobohm, Dick & Phyllis Schreiber, Rich & Marie Shumard, Pat Smith, Ken & Joan Stokes, Alma Symons, Jim Symons, Karen Tankersley, Pamela Thomas, Norm Thompson, Catherine Valentine, Mark Valentine, Kim Grant Megan Williams, Kathy Lee |
Adamson, Larry - San Antonio, Texas
WHAT I HAVE LEARNED IN THE LAST TEN YEARS!!
Larry Adamson, age 81 years, for Jim Symons as he celebrates his 80th Birthday!!
A number of years ago I was privileged at different occasions to hear a weekend of lectures by Marcus Borg, Dominic Crossan, and John Spong. In reading their books and then hearing them express their enlightening ideas, this literally made my faith come alive. Some of the things which I had learned in the past can be taken as metaphor which helped to explain some of the things which I was taking on faith, but with some reservations and question in the recesses of my mind.
Also a number of years ago I was introduced to John Philip Newell and his emphasis on Celtic Spirituality. Philip is such a gifted man of God, and I have used his many meditations and prayers in my daily devotions. This has also been important in my spiritual growth.
Within the last 10 years, with this background and experience, my faith has grown as has my relationship with Creator God thru Jesus, who showed us how to live and how to know Creator God. These relationships have become more and more real to me. I look forward to times of meditation to speak to God and allow God to speak to me.
An experience which I had in May/June of 2008 can attest to the growth in faith which I've experienced and in which I realized even more the love of Creator God and the importance relationships and of ministering to others and and being supported and ministered to in times of joy and trouble. I include a note which I sent to friends and family at Christmas of 2008:
Many of you know that Bunny and I were on a Celtic Spirituality Pilgrimage to Scotland in late May and early June 2008 lead by Philip Newell. On the Isle of Iona, one of the truly holy places in the Christian tradition, Bunny died in her sleep with no pain and no illness. I was surrounded by such support and love that I was able to grieve for 3 to 4 hours, after which I could focus on Bunny's joy and not on my sorrow. Bunny and I had 52 special years of marriage and the love of our four children and their families. We were very blessed. I am doing very well as are our children and grandchildren. I see them often, and we celebrate Bunny's life and our love for one another when we're together. We look forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas when we will remember with joy the times in the past when we have celebrated these special times with Bunny.
Life is very good and I have been incredibly blessed in so many ways, including spending a week in the Spring of 2009 with Jim and Marilyn in Wellington, New Zealand where they were doing an Interim Ministry at St. Ninian's Parish in Wellington, New Zealand (Presbyterian/Methodist). For me this was important in my continuing healing from my devastating loss. My relationship with the Symons began in the fall of 1970 at Warren Wilson College near Asheville, NC and this relationship has meant the world to Bunny and to me through all of these years. I say again LIFE IS GOOD!!! I CELEBRATE WITH JIM AS HE MOVES INTO THE YEARS OF THE 80S , AND TO MARILYN, HIS SPECIAL AND WONDERFULLY TALENTED BEST FRIEND!!
P.S. Creator God has now blessed me with a new relationship, Helene Treat, long time friend whose husband died, who is now my life long partner with church blessings.
Larry Adamson, age 81 years, for Jim Symons as he celebrates his 80th Birthday!!
A number of years ago I was privileged at different occasions to hear a weekend of lectures by Marcus Borg, Dominic Crossan, and John Spong. In reading their books and then hearing them express their enlightening ideas, this literally made my faith come alive. Some of the things which I had learned in the past can be taken as metaphor which helped to explain some of the things which I was taking on faith, but with some reservations and question in the recesses of my mind.
Also a number of years ago I was introduced to John Philip Newell and his emphasis on Celtic Spirituality. Philip is such a gifted man of God, and I have used his many meditations and prayers in my daily devotions. This has also been important in my spiritual growth.
Within the last 10 years, with this background and experience, my faith has grown as has my relationship with Creator God thru Jesus, who showed us how to live and how to know Creator God. These relationships have become more and more real to me. I look forward to times of meditation to speak to God and allow God to speak to me.
An experience which I had in May/June of 2008 can attest to the growth in faith which I've experienced and in which I realized even more the love of Creator God and the importance relationships and of ministering to others and and being supported and ministered to in times of joy and trouble. I include a note which I sent to friends and family at Christmas of 2008:
Many of you know that Bunny and I were on a Celtic Spirituality Pilgrimage to Scotland in late May and early June 2008 lead by Philip Newell. On the Isle of Iona, one of the truly holy places in the Christian tradition, Bunny died in her sleep with no pain and no illness. I was surrounded by such support and love that I was able to grieve for 3 to 4 hours, after which I could focus on Bunny's joy and not on my sorrow. Bunny and I had 52 special years of marriage and the love of our four children and their families. We were very blessed. I am doing very well as are our children and grandchildren. I see them often, and we celebrate Bunny's life and our love for one another when we're together. We look forward to Thanksgiving and Christmas when we will remember with joy the times in the past when we have celebrated these special times with Bunny.
Life is very good and I have been incredibly blessed in so many ways, including spending a week in the Spring of 2009 with Jim and Marilyn in Wellington, New Zealand where they were doing an Interim Ministry at St. Ninian's Parish in Wellington, New Zealand (Presbyterian/Methodist). For me this was important in my continuing healing from my devastating loss. My relationship with the Symons began in the fall of 1970 at Warren Wilson College near Asheville, NC and this relationship has meant the world to Bunny and to me through all of these years. I say again LIFE IS GOOD!!! I CELEBRATE WITH JIM AS HE MOVES INTO THE YEARS OF THE 80S , AND TO MARILYN, HIS SPECIAL AND WONDERFULLY TALENTED BEST FRIEND!!
P.S. Creator God has now blessed me with a new relationship, Helene Treat, long time friend whose husband died, who is now my life long partner with church blessings.
Ballenger, Larry & Judy - Pasadena, California
Bos, Bob - Pasadena, California
Jim,
Happy 80! In response to your request, here are some of my thoughts.
First, here are some quotes. "The purpose of learning is growth, and our minds, unlike our bodies, can continue growing as we continue to live." (Mortimer Adler) Henry Ford put it this way, "Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty." Vernon Howard wrote, "Always walk through life as if you have something new to learn and you will." "All the world is a laboratory to the inqiring mind." (Martin H. Fischer)
In the past 10 years, I have benefited from the Pasadena Community College through its Parent Education and Continung Education Department. One class has been a Journal Life Review, designed to give students the opportunity to create a life history for their families as a way to carry on an historical legacy. Through this class I have found a new pleasure in writing. It has been fun recalling experiences, telling about them, and making the writings as creative, descriptive, personal, and interesting as possible. I have found new pleasure not only in writing but in listening to the writings of other members of the class. The other class is the Music Appreciation class for Older Adults. The emphasis is on development of music, relationship to art, culture, history and popular music. I feel that I am growing and experiencing many of the goals that the class hopes to achieve: enjoyment, exploration, understanding of the music presented, appreciating composers and arrangers of different kinds of music, musical styles, and much more.
I hope that this is helpful.
Bob Bos
Happy 80! In response to your request, here are some of my thoughts.
First, here are some quotes. "The purpose of learning is growth, and our minds, unlike our bodies, can continue growing as we continue to live." (Mortimer Adler) Henry Ford put it this way, "Anyone who stops learning is old, whether at twenty or eighty." Vernon Howard wrote, "Always walk through life as if you have something new to learn and you will." "All the world is a laboratory to the inqiring mind." (Martin H. Fischer)
In the past 10 years, I have benefited from the Pasadena Community College through its Parent Education and Continung Education Department. One class has been a Journal Life Review, designed to give students the opportunity to create a life history for their families as a way to carry on an historical legacy. Through this class I have found a new pleasure in writing. It has been fun recalling experiences, telling about them, and making the writings as creative, descriptive, personal, and interesting as possible. I have found new pleasure not only in writing but in listening to the writings of other members of the class. The other class is the Music Appreciation class for Older Adults. The emphasis is on development of music, relationship to art, culture, history and popular music. I feel that I am growing and experiencing many of the goals that the class hopes to achieve: enjoyment, exploration, understanding of the music presented, appreciating composers and arrangers of different kinds of music, musical styles, and much more.
I hope that this is helpful.
Bob Bos
Bos, Carole - Pasadena, California
In my younger years, I took good health for granted. I have never stayed in a hospital other than for the birth of children or tests. As the years have progressed, my energy seems to come to a halt at 5:00 p.m. rather than at 10 p.m. I witness others of my age struggling with serious illnesses, and I nursed our 34 year-old son through a terminal illness. Today I find myself giving thanks daily for the energy and investment in important activities that I have, hopefully using the hours well.
Dipping into one's own creativity brings fulfillment. When I retired, I formed a quasi "bucket list." Completing
many of those items has forced me into new ventures, some have been more successful than others. progress seems to be accomplished often in baby steps or "mis"steps. Perfection is rarely attainable; neither does it matter. The pleasure is in the attempt.
I have found that silence is a natural state meant to be enjoyed often. I am not uncomfortable with silence during the day or while conversing with friends. It has become fresh air for me.
These past 10 years at Monte Vista Grove have affirmed that we share our lives and energy with others. Our Lord reminded us that discipleship is not only following in His steps, but journeying with others through joy, trauma, and relationships.
A fellow traveler,
Carole Bos
Dipping into one's own creativity brings fulfillment. When I retired, I formed a quasi "bucket list." Completing
many of those items has forced me into new ventures, some have been more successful than others. progress seems to be accomplished often in baby steps or "mis"steps. Perfection is rarely attainable; neither does it matter. The pleasure is in the attempt.
I have found that silence is a natural state meant to be enjoyed often. I am not uncomfortable with silence during the day or while conversing with friends. It has become fresh air for me.
These past 10 years at Monte Vista Grove have affirmed that we share our lives and energy with others. Our Lord reminded us that discipleship is not only following in His steps, but journeying with others through joy, trauma, and relationships.
A fellow traveler,
Carole Bos
Brackett, Bill & Ann - Sarasota, Florida
You asked what is important in our lives right now. Some lessons learned over the past 10 years. Thank you for asking as we have enjoyed working together shaping the lessons into words that express what we feel so deeply. These are not in a specific order.
Music reminds us of the past, helps us live in the present, and even points us in fresh directions in the future
In the game of life, expect changes in the calls/the rules, but continue to ask for the ball and stay in the game.
Yes, cancer is a huge challenge yet I am blessed when the spouse cares deeply.
Continue to learn and grow every day.
Here I am. Here You are, Lord. Here we are together, forever.
With Love and Peace - Ann & Bill Brackett
Music reminds us of the past, helps us live in the present, and even points us in fresh directions in the future
In the game of life, expect changes in the calls/the rules, but continue to ask for the ball and stay in the game.
Yes, cancer is a huge challenge yet I am blessed when the spouse cares deeply.
Continue to learn and grow every day.
Here I am. Here You are, Lord. Here we are together, forever.
With Love and Peace - Ann & Bill Brackett
Brassard, Mary - Pasadena, California
Dear Jim, Congratulations on your upcoming 80th birthday.
One thing I have gained recently is:
A clearer understanding of the Kingdom of God, and a
renewed excitement to be part of it.
Blessings to you and Marilyn and your family,
One thing I have gained recently is:
A clearer understanding of the Kingdom of God, and a
renewed excitement to be part of it.
Blessings to you and Marilyn and your family,
Brough, Des - Seatoun, New Zealand
USA must be unique in having a Christian text on its coins. No one gives it a thought, except me, when faced with your 80th birthday request. As these good times roll, who looks twice at a penny? Well I did. Out with a magnifying glass(presbyopia Jim) to do my homework. There it is, in God we trust. Liberty. These words have a new currency in our troubled times. More than face value. This must be the hardest part for me, to really believe and have faith in God when faced with personal difficulties. To have faith in God that he will always be with me. whatever challenges I face.. That I am never alone and that I can share my burdens. Renewed faith in the power of prayer. Whether it turns up heads or tails; to remember that Jesus Christ died on the Cross for us in order that we might live a rich and fulfilling life.
Happy birthday Jim..
Happy birthday Jim..
Buckwalter, Paul - Tucson, Arizona
Buntine, David and Lyn - Wodonga, Australia
In the last 10 years we have come to realise how fortunate we are to still enjoy good health and the gift of a loving family including being grandparents. We have come to value and be thankful for friendships, security, living in a stable democracy and the love of God. We have also learned that with age comes the challenge of operating electronic gismos and that retirement does not mean redundancy but offers new opportunities to remain both physically and mentally active.
Burgess, Betsey - Pasadena, California
Calkins, Bruce - Pasadena, California
"What have you learned during the last ten years?"
1. I’ve learned that the sheer volume of what I don’t know keeps increasing.
2. I’ve learned that the sum of all I’ve ever thought or said about God is an understatement.
3. I’ve learned that, through my 70’s, my life has grown less stressful and (even) more enjoyable.
4. I’ve learned that God seems to take delight in surprising me.
5. I’ve learned the joy of living within a community of Christ’s disciples.
I’ve learned more than this, but I forgot what it was.
Bruce
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"When you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb!"
Kahlil Gibran
1. I’ve learned that the sheer volume of what I don’t know keeps increasing.
2. I’ve learned that the sum of all I’ve ever thought or said about God is an understatement.
3. I’ve learned that, through my 70’s, my life has grown less stressful and (even) more enjoyable.
4. I’ve learned that God seems to take delight in surprising me.
5. I’ve learned the joy of living within a community of Christ’s disciples.
I’ve learned more than this, but I forgot what it was.
Bruce
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"When you have reached the mountain top, then you shall begin to climb!"
Kahlil Gibran
Castellano, Pat - South Pasadena, California
Chick, Carol - Arlington, Texas
Ten years ago I moved to Texas to be near family. I have a home on the acre lot that my son Arden and Melanie own. They have the big house. Families and friends are to me the blessings of llfe. I know through Mel that family life for some is pure hell. Mel's mother is paranoid schizophrenic, from birth, and she made the life of her children chaotic to say the least. Mel's mom will frequently tell Mell that she should have been aborted so she could have had some fun in her life. How that must hurt!
Arden and Mel were a source of strength for me as I battled cancer medication side effects for five years. I've been declared a survivor by my Doctors and I am greatful for each day. I know that Mel needs to know that from me she has love and approval and I strive to support her.
Love is everything; we each need the love of others and we need to love and support each other on our life journey. That way, we are never alone in life.
I don't think this is anything new that I have learned; it just enforces one of those lessons of life.
Happy birthday, Jim and I hope all is well with you, Marilyn!
Love to both of you.
Arden and Mel were a source of strength for me as I battled cancer medication side effects for five years. I've been declared a survivor by my Doctors and I am greatful for each day. I know that Mel needs to know that from me she has love and approval and I strive to support her.
Love is everything; we each need the love of others and we need to love and support each other on our life journey. That way, we are never alone in life.
I don't think this is anything new that I have learned; it just enforces one of those lessons of life.
Happy birthday, Jim and I hope all is well with you, Marilyn!
Love to both of you.
Coates, Jessie - Pasadena, California
Coon-Weller, Russ & Charlie - Tucson, Arizona
Craig, Bill - Pasadena, California
Cunningham, Bill - Pasadena, California
I put my trust in God when I was 11 years old. That decision continues to be most important to me. My life verse is Proverbs 3:5-6. I married Karlene over 52 years ago. Each year I am more and more aware that she is a special gift to me, committed to Jesus, a prayer warrior, so loving, a great communicator, and excels in homemaking and gardening skills. She is the perfect wife for me, a caring and giving mother, and a wonderful and supportive grandmother. I am thrilled to observe that our children are excellent parents. I am continuing to learn to keep my mouth shut when our children or grandchildren occasionally make decisions with which I may not agree. I realize that my parents did not agree with all of my decisions. I have learned that we can learn from our mistakes. I hope to be very available to family members and friends if they need something from me. With God's help, I hope to be loving and graceful to everyone I encounter. That is so important for them and for me. We recently moved into a retirement community for retired PCUSA pastors and missionaries. I am learning that about the only "renters" task I need to do is water the plants. A homeowner has so many more demands. Living here may add 5-10 years to my life! Residing in a Christian community has enriched our lives and provided instant caring relationships. I may not agree with all of the decisions of those in federal, state, and local government. But I am so grateful that I can freely vote and pray for them. I am continuing to learn to listen to my body and to rest when it says, "Stop." I continue to learn each day. Recently I discovered that firm, strong toilet paper is better than thin, soft ones. I could go on and on. But I was asked to keep these thoughts to one paragraph!
Cunningham, Karlene - Pasadena, California
What I Have Learned in the Last Ten Years
To make contact with your teenage grandchildren you either need to text or take them out for food. Bill is excellent at taking care of me through a major operation and recovery. I've never been in that situation before. People here at the Grove are very friendly, supportive, and helpful in all kinds of ways. I'm grateful. In fact, I am very grateful to live here and thoroughly enjoy our life and home. I can make a huge transition and embrace the new. I can plan and survive a move and remodeI. I can get rid of lots of stuff and really never miss it. I need to get rid of more. I learned in a hurry that I could get used to not cooking dinner! Drop everything to have those times to visit and connect with others. Housework always waits for you.
To make contact with your teenage grandchildren you either need to text or take them out for food. Bill is excellent at taking care of me through a major operation and recovery. I've never been in that situation before. People here at the Grove are very friendly, supportive, and helpful in all kinds of ways. I'm grateful. In fact, I am very grateful to live here and thoroughly enjoy our life and home. I can make a huge transition and embrace the new. I can plan and survive a move and remodeI. I can get rid of lots of stuff and really never miss it. I need to get rid of more. I learned in a hurry that I could get used to not cooking dinner! Drop everything to have those times to visit and connect with others. Housework always waits for you.
Davidson, Don & Cherie - Olympia, Washington
DeGraaff, Henry - Pasadena, California
DeGraaff, Joyce - Pasadena, California
Delman, Norman - Duarte, California
Dirks, Annabelle - Pasadena, California
Donohue, Ginny - Eugene, Oregon
I have learned, though I still do not act on it, that whenever I think of a person, I should immediately get to my desk and write a note,(or email) however short, to tell the person that he or she is in my mind's pleasant memory bank, and to thank them for being there. These thoughts come suddenly, as I walk and hear birdsong, as I read books or articles, as I talk to myself or stare into space. My memories are such nice places to have conversations that connect the past to the present and bring the friend before me in a way that feels quite real..(sort of like Scrooge's ghosts, but much nicer!). But how will anyone know of this gift ,the pleasure of these warm thoughts I have received from having them in my life, whether recently or long ago, unless I let them know? Perhaps I will put stamps on all the stray postcards I've accumulated over the years and send them off over the miles. I wrote to one of my college professors who wrote back from his Hospice bed, and I am so grateful that I had a chance to let him know how influential he had been in my teaching career, and in my love of poetry. So, if you are like me, we will keep the post office in business buying stamps for our messages of "Thanks for the memories."
Somehow I just don't think texting would be the same--even if I did know how to do it!!!
The paragraph is a minute representations of all the times I've thought of you and Marilyn over the years. Have a wonderful celebration,and thank you for being part of my world of experience.
Love, Ginny
Somehow I just don't think texting would be the same--even if I did know how to do it!!!
The paragraph is a minute representations of all the times I've thought of you and Marilyn over the years. Have a wonderful celebration,and thank you for being part of my world of experience.
Love, Ginny
Drummond, Richard - Masterton, New Zealand
French, Carolyn - Pasadena, California
Fung, Sherman - Pasadena, California
It’s not easy to answer the question, “What have you learned in the past ten years?” Obviously a person learns a lot of things in that much of extended time. To present them all effectively would be a tall order. To be reasonably brief and to the point, I will focus on, what I consider, the most important item. I have been learning to be more accepting or at least more tolerant of beliefs, opinions, stances, positions that differ from mine. The area of music is a good illustration. This is particularly true of music that is prevalent in some Christian circles.
I was raised on the dark green hymnal of the Presbyterian church. “Holy, Holy, Holy, God Almighty,” “Rejoice Ye Pure in Heart,” “For All The Saint, Who From Their Labor Rest,” “Rock of Ages Cleft on Me,” and “Fairest Lord Jesus” were some of the meat and potatoes of congregational singing from that hymnal. These were classed by many church leaders as standard hymns, but I also occasionally sang “substandard” ones popularly called gospel songs such as C. Austin Miles’s “I Come to the Garden Alone,” Fanny Crosby and William Kirkpatrick’s “Redeemed How I Love to Proclaim it,” and William Bradbury’s “Sweet Hour of Prayer.” Looking back over the years of congregational involvement, I notice that these gospel songs disappeared from the liturgical vocabulary. We stopped singing them, but whenever I hear them sung, they strike a cord within me. Even though we have largely discarded them, they still evoke in me an attachment. Thinking over what that attachment could be, I came to the understanding that those gospel songs are associated with earlier Christian experiences that we regard as significant in our maturation. The songs are tied to feelings.
Being classed as substandard does not reduce the strength of that emotional tie. I came to see that we make a mistake in neglecting, if not, rejecting them. By denying them a place in our Christian heritage we become that much poorer. All kinds of hymns, however they are classed, can enrich Christian experience.
I can see the same dynamics of critical choice operating in other areas of my life
such as popular music, books, movies, sports, clothes, politics, etc.. That’s why I say that an important lesson I’ve learned in the last ten years is being more accepting of the different. The different can open doors of opportunity so far unimagined. Accepting the different could be the key to unlocking the why of mysteries. Openness could lead to the understanding of our strangeness, on the part of observers of our behavior.
I was raised on the dark green hymnal of the Presbyterian church. “Holy, Holy, Holy, God Almighty,” “Rejoice Ye Pure in Heart,” “For All The Saint, Who From Their Labor Rest,” “Rock of Ages Cleft on Me,” and “Fairest Lord Jesus” were some of the meat and potatoes of congregational singing from that hymnal. These were classed by many church leaders as standard hymns, but I also occasionally sang “substandard” ones popularly called gospel songs such as C. Austin Miles’s “I Come to the Garden Alone,” Fanny Crosby and William Kirkpatrick’s “Redeemed How I Love to Proclaim it,” and William Bradbury’s “Sweet Hour of Prayer.” Looking back over the years of congregational involvement, I notice that these gospel songs disappeared from the liturgical vocabulary. We stopped singing them, but whenever I hear them sung, they strike a cord within me. Even though we have largely discarded them, they still evoke in me an attachment. Thinking over what that attachment could be, I came to the understanding that those gospel songs are associated with earlier Christian experiences that we regard as significant in our maturation. The songs are tied to feelings.
Being classed as substandard does not reduce the strength of that emotional tie. I came to see that we make a mistake in neglecting, if not, rejecting them. By denying them a place in our Christian heritage we become that much poorer. All kinds of hymns, however they are classed, can enrich Christian experience.
I can see the same dynamics of critical choice operating in other areas of my life
such as popular music, books, movies, sports, clothes, politics, etc.. That’s why I say that an important lesson I’ve learned in the last ten years is being more accepting of the different. The different can open doors of opportunity so far unimagined. Accepting the different could be the key to unlocking the why of mysteries. Openness could lead to the understanding of our strangeness, on the part of observers of our behavior.
Galassi, Martha - San Gabriel, California
Gilmour, Bryan - Brisbane, Australia
Gordon, Lyn & Grant - Wannaka, New Zealand
Gutierrez, Andy - Duarte, California
Harasty, Jayne - Solvang, California
Harvey, Kevin - Adelaide, Australia
What have I learnt in the past 10 years -
I have a poster given to me by a lady (now 93) who came to Kooringal
every weekend for 5 years to help Gwyn do the cooking (no pay as we had
no money!but eventually was able to pay her back in different ways) The
poster is a big waterfall and underneath is written ''GIVE TO THE WORLD
THE BEST YOU HAVE AND THE REST WILL COME BACK TO YOU'
I never did anything for money, but my life bank account is full and
running over. The early search for the abundant life Jesus promised
fired me up to go into ministry basically to be a helper in the mission
to 'set the captives free, liberty to the oppressed and sight to those
who cannot see'. 20 years in ministry was a wonderful experience and
recently had a big reunion of young people who came to the first coffee
shop in a church and almost in the community in 1971 and went for 6
years with 200 kids coming every Friday night...it was a "somewhere to
go, something to do and someone to be with'. They are now late 50's and
up to mid 60's and the stories were amazing at how that community of
acceptance, love and support was a foundation for so many to make a
difference in the world.
The Kooringal experience (our retreat centre) over 20 years was my "Mt
Everest' climb where 4/5 people were there every day for that period
(attempting suicide, borken relationships, chronic depression etc plus
lots of marriage enrichment groups and workshops)...with a similar
philosophy but with healing of mind, body, spirit uppermost in that
atmosphere of complete acceptance. We meet people wherever we go who
came there in the 80's and 90's.
The last 15 years of mentoring has been so rewarding. This included the
two years of the cancer journey which I found also an extremely enriching
experience as I spent two hours daily journalling, reading and recording the
inner journey. The dementia journey for my wife will prove to be tough I am
sure, but so far, fine. No matter what, it is still a time to give the best I have
and guess I have been prepared to be there for the one I have loved and
cherished for 55 years...and the best keeps coming back.
In our church we had a unwritten creed that we were all ministers to
each other and I have learnt so much from the people who came to me for
help. I think I will write one day on 'Being A Collector of Community
Wisdom.
Together Gwyn and I gave our best and we are now being overwhelmed with
love and support
Thanks for the memories Jim.....I preached my farewell sermon at the
Reunion two weeks ago! Love to you both....Kev.
I have a poster given to me by a lady (now 93) who came to Kooringal
every weekend for 5 years to help Gwyn do the cooking (no pay as we had
no money!but eventually was able to pay her back in different ways) The
poster is a big waterfall and underneath is written ''GIVE TO THE WORLD
THE BEST YOU HAVE AND THE REST WILL COME BACK TO YOU'
I never did anything for money, but my life bank account is full and
running over. The early search for the abundant life Jesus promised
fired me up to go into ministry basically to be a helper in the mission
to 'set the captives free, liberty to the oppressed and sight to those
who cannot see'. 20 years in ministry was a wonderful experience and
recently had a big reunion of young people who came to the first coffee
shop in a church and almost in the community in 1971 and went for 6
years with 200 kids coming every Friday night...it was a "somewhere to
go, something to do and someone to be with'. They are now late 50's and
up to mid 60's and the stories were amazing at how that community of
acceptance, love and support was a foundation for so many to make a
difference in the world.
The Kooringal experience (our retreat centre) over 20 years was my "Mt
Everest' climb where 4/5 people were there every day for that period
(attempting suicide, borken relationships, chronic depression etc plus
lots of marriage enrichment groups and workshops)...with a similar
philosophy but with healing of mind, body, spirit uppermost in that
atmosphere of complete acceptance. We meet people wherever we go who
came there in the 80's and 90's.
The last 15 years of mentoring has been so rewarding. This included the
two years of the cancer journey which I found also an extremely enriching
experience as I spent two hours daily journalling, reading and recording the
inner journey. The dementia journey for my wife will prove to be tough I am
sure, but so far, fine. No matter what, it is still a time to give the best I have
and guess I have been prepared to be there for the one I have loved and
cherished for 55 years...and the best keeps coming back.
In our church we had a unwritten creed that we were all ministers to
each other and I have learnt so much from the people who came to me for
help. I think I will write one day on 'Being A Collector of Community
Wisdom.
Together Gwyn and I gave our best and we are now being overwhelmed with
love and support
Thanks for the memories Jim.....I preached my farewell sermon at the
Reunion two weeks ago! Love to you both....Kev.
Heer, Ray & Clara - Pasadena, California
IN THE LAST 10 YEARS WE HAVE LEARNED
Jig-saw puzzles can be very frustrating
God loves Republicans, Democrats and everybody else
To be more open-minded about health alternatives
To be grateful for our childrens' suggestions that come out of a love for us
To appreciate the Presbyterian Church in its efforts to minister in the world.
To appreciate the many kindnesses and service provided us by Monte Vista Grove staff
To appreciate our material comforts rocognizing they are only temporal
That loving relationships are more important than following the rules
WE ARE TRYING TO LEARN
How to accept our increasing limitations
That being is more important than doing
How to grow old graciously
Jig-saw puzzles can be very frustrating
God loves Republicans, Democrats and everybody else
To be more open-minded about health alternatives
To be grateful for our childrens' suggestions that come out of a love for us
To appreciate the Presbyterian Church in its efforts to minister in the world.
To appreciate the many kindnesses and service provided us by Monte Vista Grove staff
To appreciate our material comforts rocognizing they are only temporal
That loving relationships are more important than following the rules
WE ARE TRYING TO LEARN
How to accept our increasing limitations
That being is more important than doing
How to grow old graciously
Heyne, Evelyn - Pasadena, California
My last ten years have been a real roller coaster. In August, 2004, Jack died just three weeks after our 60 th wedding anniversary. He had decided that dialysis was no longer for him. The doctor had said it would be about three weeks after he quit and so it was. It was a remarkably peaceful and pain free time during which we talked of our time together, of those times we needed to say we were sorry and of the glorious memories we would always have. I recommend talking for all couples.
Then within six months I was married again! Stan and his first wife Pat and Jack and I had been good friends for over fifty years and when our spouses died we discovered we were more then friends. We had five glorious years together, moving to his home in Paso Robles and then Stan died. Something I discovered during his last week of life is that hearing is the last sense to go. He was in a coma during that week, but I sat by him and talked of many things. One night I said to him that I had to go take something out of the dryer, that I loved him and would be right back. He responded "I love you too. Goodbye."
After his death, I moved back to MVGH. What a great place among friends who could help me through my grief when I needed that. It is now ten years of goodbyes, hellos, more goodbyes and more hellos. God has been with me through it all. I am grateful for Him and for all my friends.
Evelyn Thomas Heyne
Then within six months I was married again! Stan and his first wife Pat and Jack and I had been good friends for over fifty years and when our spouses died we discovered we were more then friends. We had five glorious years together, moving to his home in Paso Robles and then Stan died. Something I discovered during his last week of life is that hearing is the last sense to go. He was in a coma during that week, but I sat by him and talked of many things. One night I said to him that I had to go take something out of the dryer, that I loved him and would be right back. He responded "I love you too. Goodbye."
After his death, I moved back to MVGH. What a great place among friends who could help me through my grief when I needed that. It is now ten years of goodbyes, hellos, more goodbyes and more hellos. God has been with me through it all. I am grateful for Him and for all my friends.
Evelyn Thomas Heyne
Hintzglou, Peter - Pasadena, California
Hoffman, Cecil - Pasadena, California
Hoffman, Pat - Pasadena, California
Jacobsen, Kathie - Pasadena, California
Jacoby, Mary Lou - Duarte, California
Kane, Marcia - Tucson, Arizona
Kelly, Paul - San Diego, California
In the last few years, I’ve discovered I’m not at all alone, but in good company, about things I was gradually learning in the prior decades about our world, our dominant Western culture (including mainstream psychology’s very mixed “contribution”), and the Christian church and faith. One of those things concerns identity, “tribalism” (incl. nationalism, racism, sectarianism, and all other in-groupisms) and religion. It is nicely encapsulated in Miroslav Volf’s claim that, “God should be a maker and not a marker of identity.” A second, related issue is “salvation” and is nicely encapsulated by N T Wright’s observation that, "The New Testament is not nearly as concerned with getting people into heaven as getting heaven into people.”
Happy Birthday !
Happy Birthday !
King, Janet & Miles - Masterton, New Zealand
We have learned in the past 10 years that life is full of surprises, that every bad or sad thing that occurs is followed by something hopeful.
Our cheese business continues to go from strength to strength, opportunities come out of the blue, a daughter home for 3 months to help us, loved our business and then going off to England to follow an opportunity offered there. Dispair at having some of our precious lambs mauled by dogs, to excitement at discovering our Sunset Blue cheese was one of the NZ cheeses on the menu at Premier House for our Prime Minister, his wife and the Royals William and Kate.
Both Miles and I believe our destiny is in the hands of a greater being than us, which gives us the courage to go forward with confidence, even though for me personally the path is a little rocky.
We wish you both a happy and fun time.
Warmest regards,
Janet & Miles
Our cheese business continues to go from strength to strength, opportunities come out of the blue, a daughter home for 3 months to help us, loved our business and then going off to England to follow an opportunity offered there. Dispair at having some of our precious lambs mauled by dogs, to excitement at discovering our Sunset Blue cheese was one of the NZ cheeses on the menu at Premier House for our Prime Minister, his wife and the Royals William and Kate.
Both Miles and I believe our destiny is in the hands of a greater being than us, which gives us the courage to go forward with confidence, even though for me personally the path is a little rocky.
We wish you both a happy and fun time.
Warmest regards,
Janet & Miles
Lee, Margie (Jim's sister) - McMinnville, Oregon
I have learned in the past ten years that one’s LIFE can run the spectrum of extreme highs down to horrific lows. Tom Lee, my husband of 64 years, and I loved to travel all over the world, so ten years ago we were cruising the Suez Canal, visiting Napoleon’s St. Helena’s island and Mandela’s cell in Cape Town. During the next few years, we loved the opening of Disneyland in Hong Kong, safaris in Africa, Australia’s coral reefs and Rio’s nightlife—plus camping all over the U.S.A. But STOP! Tom spent the last three years in Skilled Nursing and I lost him the day after Thanksgiving (with my brother, Jim, officiating at his Celebration of Life in McMinnville, Oregon)…so the “highs” are in my life with Tom and our two beautiful daughters, the “lows” are in his loss, and now, many “highs” with loving family and friends who share themselves with me. It’s a GREAT FEELING!
Lodwick, Hedy - Pasadena, California
Melrose, Marie - Pasadena, California
Milham, Doug - Pasadena, California
Top Ten Things I've Learned from Hanging Around Jim Simons the Last 10 Years:
I've learned:
1. That 80 is the new 60.
2. That when I play golf with 80 year olds, it makes my 67 feel like a little kid again.
3. That when I play golf with 80 year olds, I lose a lot of money.
4. That friendship, love and laughter are the glue that holds life together.
5. That God's love is the best and only hope of humanity on this earth;
6. That God's love is sufficient.
7. That we are a people of great needs;
8. That we have a great Christ for our needs;
9. (By watching Jim) that intellectual curiosity is a wonderful gift for the lifelong journey, and
10. That Everyone in the World deserves at least One Mulligan along the way.
God bless, and Happy Birthday Young Man.....
I've learned:
1. That 80 is the new 60.
2. That when I play golf with 80 year olds, it makes my 67 feel like a little kid again.
3. That when I play golf with 80 year olds, I lose a lot of money.
4. That friendship, love and laughter are the glue that holds life together.
5. That God's love is the best and only hope of humanity on this earth;
6. That God's love is sufficient.
7. That we are a people of great needs;
8. That we have a great Christ for our needs;
9. (By watching Jim) that intellectual curiosity is a wonderful gift for the lifelong journey, and
10. That Everyone in the World deserves at least One Mulligan along the way.
God bless, and Happy Birthday Young Man.....
Nazarian, Noreen - Pasadena, California
In the last 10 years I learned to be open to different transitions--Health and unexpected falls; loosing friends in death; children's circumstances changing; frustration with the reality that my energy level is not what it used to be and it is slowly getting worse. I have also learned that it is important for me each evening before bed time to thank God for specific experiences I had that day to practice -- "the joy of the Lord is my strength!"
Orange, Norman & Jenny - Palmerston North, New Zealand
I have just completed reading a biography on Governor Robert Fitzroy who was the second governor of New Zealand between 1842 and 1845. His was no easy task. He inherited an economic crisis, new settlers who believed their rights were more important than the indigenous Maori, and virtually no military support; in other words England had thrown him in the deep end. They subsequently succumbed to complaints and recalled him. I am not comparing your time at St Davids with that of Fitzroy but like him you were an ambassador stepping into the unknown where there was an expectation that you would cope with our idiosyncrasies and minister to our spiritual needs. You coped so well that, given the opportunity, you came back for more.
Unlike others I had many opportunities to appreciate your zeal for tennis. It started so naturally and by the time you and Marylin called it a day, you and I had enjoyed each others company on the tennis court in Palmerston North, Wellington, Masterton and finally Pasadena. Thank you for making that possible at a time in life when it is too easy to resist that kind of engagement. I doubt if a new decade in your life will detract you from participating in the only game I know where love abounds.
Many happy returns from down under.
Love Norman and Jenny
Unlike others I had many opportunities to appreciate your zeal for tennis. It started so naturally and by the time you and Marylin called it a day, you and I had enjoyed each others company on the tennis court in Palmerston North, Wellington, Masterton and finally Pasadena. Thank you for making that possible at a time in life when it is too easy to resist that kind of engagement. I doubt if a new decade in your life will detract you from participating in the only game I know where love abounds.
Many happy returns from down under.
Love Norman and Jenny
Pierson, Paul - Pasadena, California
Poos-Benson, Steve - Littleton, Colorado
What I have done in the past Ten Years . . .In the past ten years I had my identity stolen,
was arrested and went to jail because a crime was committed in my name. I have
worked to heal a community in the wake of multiple school shootings. I have coached
over three hundred people in the process of dying and have buried over 500 others. I led
my church through major economic crises forcing the lay off of employees. I have guided
my three children through their adolescence, teaching them how to drive, how to thrive
in college, and launched them into their young adult careers. I have celebrated life with
my wife of thirty-three years. I have earned a black belt in martial arts, and am working
towards a second degree ranking. I was in a severe bicycle wreck, and bucked from a
horse that broke my right clavicle and damaged my shoulder. My daughter and I
have climbed several “Fourteeners.” I have led spiritual pilgrimages to Nicaragua, Israel,
Jordan, and Ireland. I participated in my brothers wedding in Warsaw, Poland.
I preached and spoke publicly over 2,860 times. Last month after a three-year
writing process I had my book, Sent to Soar published by Quest Books. I’ve been
busy these ten years because in the ten years before that, I had a mentor by the
name of Dr. James E. Symons who taught me it’s the only way to live. It is through
these life events that I have learned the following . . .
What I have learned as a result . . .
I have learned that people are people. Despite nationality or economic status, we are
basically all the same. We hurt, we bleed, and we fear death. We strike out at those
around us who threaten our way of life. I have also learned that these same people
have a tremendous amount of courage, stamina and resilience. The average person
can be inspired to heroic feats, willing giving their lives so that others might live. At
Arapahoe High School, a seventeen-year-old girl confronted her murderer allowing
hundreds of her classmates flee to safety. I stood behind her parents on national TV
as they forgave the young man who murdered her. I have learned that the greatest
value, the only way to shift our culture towards sanity and civility can be captured in
two words, forgiveness and compassion. I have learned that I love to be creative
and that creativity fuels my imagination and vision. I am most alive when life is an
open canvas with no limitations. I have learned that when people seek to limit me I will
step aside, beyond, or outside of them, but I will not stop. I have learned thatI am painfully
human and am prone to make mistakes that can only be described as stupid. I have
learned that God’s grace is worked into the creation and therefore is given. The grace of
those who have suffered through my stupidity however, has been offered by their choice,
and is therefore divine. I have learned that people need others to inspire them, mentor
them and show a different path. I have learned that culture shifts and changes when there
are pioneers that go beyond what is known, and not only discover the future, but define
and articulate it for others.
I had such a mentor, Dr. James E. Symons. Living now in his wake I seek to do the same
for those behind me.
Jim, I’m going deep….spiral it out and I’ll do my best to grab it.
Happy Birthday
was arrested and went to jail because a crime was committed in my name. I have
worked to heal a community in the wake of multiple school shootings. I have coached
over three hundred people in the process of dying and have buried over 500 others. I led
my church through major economic crises forcing the lay off of employees. I have guided
my three children through their adolescence, teaching them how to drive, how to thrive
in college, and launched them into their young adult careers. I have celebrated life with
my wife of thirty-three years. I have earned a black belt in martial arts, and am working
towards a second degree ranking. I was in a severe bicycle wreck, and bucked from a
horse that broke my right clavicle and damaged my shoulder. My daughter and I
have climbed several “Fourteeners.” I have led spiritual pilgrimages to Nicaragua, Israel,
Jordan, and Ireland. I participated in my brothers wedding in Warsaw, Poland.
I preached and spoke publicly over 2,860 times. Last month after a three-year
writing process I had my book, Sent to Soar published by Quest Books. I’ve been
busy these ten years because in the ten years before that, I had a mentor by the
name of Dr. James E. Symons who taught me it’s the only way to live. It is through
these life events that I have learned the following . . .
What I have learned as a result . . .
I have learned that people are people. Despite nationality or economic status, we are
basically all the same. We hurt, we bleed, and we fear death. We strike out at those
around us who threaten our way of life. I have also learned that these same people
have a tremendous amount of courage, stamina and resilience. The average person
can be inspired to heroic feats, willing giving their lives so that others might live. At
Arapahoe High School, a seventeen-year-old girl confronted her murderer allowing
hundreds of her classmates flee to safety. I stood behind her parents on national TV
as they forgave the young man who murdered her. I have learned that the greatest
value, the only way to shift our culture towards sanity and civility can be captured in
two words, forgiveness and compassion. I have learned that I love to be creative
and that creativity fuels my imagination and vision. I am most alive when life is an
open canvas with no limitations. I have learned that when people seek to limit me I will
step aside, beyond, or outside of them, but I will not stop. I have learned thatI am painfully
human and am prone to make mistakes that can only be described as stupid. I have
learned that God’s grace is worked into the creation and therefore is given. The grace of
those who have suffered through my stupidity however, has been offered by their choice,
and is therefore divine. I have learned that people need others to inspire them, mentor
them and show a different path. I have learned that culture shifts and changes when there
are pioneers that go beyond what is known, and not only discover the future, but define
and articulate it for others.
I had such a mentor, Dr. James E. Symons. Living now in his wake I seek to do the same
for those behind me.
Jim, I’m going deep….spiral it out and I’ll do my best to grab it.
Happy Birthday
Post, Judy - Pasadena, California
Robinson, Norma & Robbie - Littleton, Colorado
As far as what I have learned in the past year is that life is too short to accomplish all goals - We are proud of Jim and Marilyn and all the things that you accomplished so far in your lives - Steve in his Sermon today is taking on another goal of his many, to stop the shooting of kids in our schools - He wants all of us to take on a problem in our lives and say yes - I can do it - I have learned from you Jim, that I see a lot of negative things happening in this world, but I don't pay attention to the positive things that are happening - I now look for the positive things and praise the Lord because I see his works through what many people have accomplished - I believe that our kids and grand-kids will make a difference in making this world a better place for all - Thank you for setting an example for us to follow - Are love to you as always - Norma and Robbie
"If every American changed just one incandescent bulb to a CFL, it would be the equivalent of taking 1 million cars off the road." Quoted in an-inconvenient-truth.com
"If every American changed just one incandescent bulb to a CFL, it would be the equivalent of taking 1 million cars off the road." Quoted in an-inconvenient-truth.com
Schlobohm, Dick & Phyllis - Mill Valley, California
Schreiber, Rich & Marie - Littleton, Colorado
We have two memories we would like to bring back to your frontal lobes!
Our first trip encounter with you was when you spearheaded a trip to Hungary to work with the first International Habitat for Humanity build near Vac. Marie wanted to go along. Besides the life long lasting memory of a humanitarian effort from which we would receive no reward, other than our own experience at working in this effort, Marie vividly remembers the long flights ... the old orphanage where we were housed ... the urine smell that permeated all the rooms and floors and wallboard ... the actual early morning wake up so we could walk the two miles to the job site ... the soldiers that lined the railroad tracks where the Russian tanks were stored who turned Jean Scheuber and Marie around by pointing their AK47s at us ... but best of all, she remembers vividly sitting down with a former President of the United States, the ever humble Jimmy Carter, who honored us by speaking to us and inspiring us with his dreams and visions of helping others in the world by simply providing a house to shelter your family in peace and quiet. This was a pivotal point in Marie's life and we thank you for putting it together and including us little people in such a dramatic vision.
Rich's memories are not so profound but nonetheless wonderful. When we attended a party at your home and you had rented a costume which I thought was "the village idiot" complete with straight stringy hair, protruding teeth, etc., I just couldn't believe it was you! One thing my colleagues and I have always said about you is that whatever Jim was doing, he looked like he was having a good time! That is a lasting message for all of us. Whatever we are doing, make it a good time!
We miss you but unfortunately we cannot attend your celebration. We will be there in spirit. Our love to Marilyn!
Blessings always,
Rich and Marie Schreiber
Our first trip encounter with you was when you spearheaded a trip to Hungary to work with the first International Habitat for Humanity build near Vac. Marie wanted to go along. Besides the life long lasting memory of a humanitarian effort from which we would receive no reward, other than our own experience at working in this effort, Marie vividly remembers the long flights ... the old orphanage where we were housed ... the urine smell that permeated all the rooms and floors and wallboard ... the actual early morning wake up so we could walk the two miles to the job site ... the soldiers that lined the railroad tracks where the Russian tanks were stored who turned Jean Scheuber and Marie around by pointing their AK47s at us ... but best of all, she remembers vividly sitting down with a former President of the United States, the ever humble Jimmy Carter, who honored us by speaking to us and inspiring us with his dreams and visions of helping others in the world by simply providing a house to shelter your family in peace and quiet. This was a pivotal point in Marie's life and we thank you for putting it together and including us little people in such a dramatic vision.
Rich's memories are not so profound but nonetheless wonderful. When we attended a party at your home and you had rented a costume which I thought was "the village idiot" complete with straight stringy hair, protruding teeth, etc., I just couldn't believe it was you! One thing my colleagues and I have always said about you is that whatever Jim was doing, he looked like he was having a good time! That is a lasting message for all of us. Whatever we are doing, make it a good time!
We miss you but unfortunately we cannot attend your celebration. We will be there in spirit. Our love to Marilyn!
Blessings always,
Rich and Marie Schreiber
Shumard, Pat - Pasadena, California
Smith, Ken & Joan - Salem, Oregon
Wisdom from life's last patch? Best I can do at this stage is pass along something of the devotions I'm using for Parish Council tonight: "Everything I needed to know about life, I learned from a jigsaw puzzle," by Jacquie Sewell. Short form of her thoughts is that tho' each piece is important and different, be sure to look at the big picture. It not only helps us make sense of the smaller stuff, it can remind us of how beautiful life is - and the picture itself guides us in putting the little pieces together. Joan adds to not take every little thing too seriously and laugh heaps. Sewell concludes: "When you finally reach the last piece, don't be sad. Rejoice in the masterpiece you've made and enjoy a well-deserved rest."
We know you haven't reached the last piece yet, but you can certainly rejoice in the masterpiece of your life, even rest a bit, and eagerly begin the next creation. Good on ya! And deep thanks for all you've shown us and how you've touched our lives over many years, from a Ghost Ranch seminar to Aotearoa! We cherish greatly our times together - thanks and celebrate wondrously!
Peace and great joy,
Ken & Joan
We know you haven't reached the last piece yet, but you can certainly rejoice in the masterpiece of your life, even rest a bit, and eagerly begin the next creation. Good on ya! And deep thanks for all you've shown us and how you've touched our lives over many years, from a Ghost Ranch seminar to Aotearoa! We cherish greatly our times together - thanks and celebrate wondrously!
Peace and great joy,
Ken & Joan
Stokes, Alma - Pasadena, California
Symons, Jim - Pasadena, California
What I have learned in the last ten years………
1. Caregiving – When Marilyn was diagnosed with breast cancer in June, 2013, we made a clear decision to do whatever it takes to face the challenge together. While I am used to balancing five or six priorities at the same time, I learned to focus on her surgery and nine months of complex treatments with a greater clarity of purpose than anything else in my lifetime. Marilyn learned how strong she can be in a crisis. A diagnostic scan in mid May, 2014, showed her to be cancer free, and we are truly grateful to God and to each other.
2. Producing a book – I have always wondered if I had the patience and skill and commitment to produce a book. In early 2013 I came up with the idea of compiling six MUSINGS lectures into a single publication. It was harder than I thought it would be, but with help from many others, including the six lecturers, I learned to work the process from initial conception to completion. Musings at the Juncture of Faith and Culture in the 21st Century is the result of my learning.
3. Learning something new – As an 80-year-old man, it is tempting for me to stick with past truths and avoid learning anything new. In 2013 Bob Jacoby asked if I would lead a Great Decisions lecture/discussion on Energy Independence. I did not know much of anything about the subject, but I like and respect Bob, and I had four months to prepare, so I said OK. As time passed I regretted that decision because I had to start from scratch. But after considerable research and scanning recent news stories, I felt I learned the subject well enough to offer both a review of current energy policies and a strong criticism of current practices like fracking which are disastrous to the environment and deplete our dwindling water resources. It is definitely worth the effort to learn something new as we age.
4. Be here now – I am continuing to learn to live in the present. For me, that means I am focusing on God’s presence in this moment and letting worry about future challenges or regret for past failings fall away. My greatest teachers are my grandchildren. While sitting in the Grove jacuzzi recently, my twelve year old grandson Nico offered to pour cold water on my head on a hot day. I smiled my approval, and as the water flowed over me I felt blessed. Then eight year old grandson Peter filled his squirt gun with warm water and, with my encouragement, massaged the top of my head with a steady stream. I sensed God’s grace as a renewal of baptism. As they both fanned me with their flippers, I felt the breath of God connecting me lovingly with these boys, the rest of my family, the people of the Grove, with all God’s children, and with the natural order itself. I knew that in that moment I was being baptized with the spirit of Jesus. As I write these words, I not only recall the experience with my grandsons at the pool, but I sense my connectedness with God’s grace as a present reality. It is here. It is now. I smile.
1. Caregiving – When Marilyn was diagnosed with breast cancer in June, 2013, we made a clear decision to do whatever it takes to face the challenge together. While I am used to balancing five or six priorities at the same time, I learned to focus on her surgery and nine months of complex treatments with a greater clarity of purpose than anything else in my lifetime. Marilyn learned how strong she can be in a crisis. A diagnostic scan in mid May, 2014, showed her to be cancer free, and we are truly grateful to God and to each other.
2. Producing a book – I have always wondered if I had the patience and skill and commitment to produce a book. In early 2013 I came up with the idea of compiling six MUSINGS lectures into a single publication. It was harder than I thought it would be, but with help from many others, including the six lecturers, I learned to work the process from initial conception to completion. Musings at the Juncture of Faith and Culture in the 21st Century is the result of my learning.
3. Learning something new – As an 80-year-old man, it is tempting for me to stick with past truths and avoid learning anything new. In 2013 Bob Jacoby asked if I would lead a Great Decisions lecture/discussion on Energy Independence. I did not know much of anything about the subject, but I like and respect Bob, and I had four months to prepare, so I said OK. As time passed I regretted that decision because I had to start from scratch. But after considerable research and scanning recent news stories, I felt I learned the subject well enough to offer both a review of current energy policies and a strong criticism of current practices like fracking which are disastrous to the environment and deplete our dwindling water resources. It is definitely worth the effort to learn something new as we age.
4. Be here now – I am continuing to learn to live in the present. For me, that means I am focusing on God’s presence in this moment and letting worry about future challenges or regret for past failings fall away. My greatest teachers are my grandchildren. While sitting in the Grove jacuzzi recently, my twelve year old grandson Nico offered to pour cold water on my head on a hot day. I smiled my approval, and as the water flowed over me I felt blessed. Then eight year old grandson Peter filled his squirt gun with warm water and, with my encouragement, massaged the top of my head with a steady stream. I sensed God’s grace as a renewal of baptism. As they both fanned me with their flippers, I felt the breath of God connecting me lovingly with these boys, the rest of my family, the people of the Grove, with all God’s children, and with the natural order itself. I knew that in that moment I was being baptized with the spirit of Jesus. As I write these words, I not only recall the experience with my grandsons at the pool, but I sense my connectedness with God’s grace as a present reality. It is here. It is now. I smile.
Symons, Karen - Tucson, Arizona
Live
Love
Laugh
Feel inner peace
Life is unfolding
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Feel inner peace
Life is unfolding
Keep moving
growing
unfolding
Opening up and connecting to all.
Tankersley, Pamela - Palmerston North, New Zealand
What have I learned in the past 10 years?
Well first of all - there is nothing so wonderful as a family, especially one that understands the preciousness of belonging together! We have three wonderful children with delightful partners and we have become a grandmother 4 times - having been present at the birth of 3 of my delightful grandkids. We are also part of a huge whanau of amazing folk, some who are family by birth, some by choice!
The church as we knew it is dying, but the Spirit will lead us into a new ecclesiology, if we join her. Leadership in the new church is about servant leadership - rather than claiming places of power.
To be blessed by living in this beautiful small country , Aotearoa, is a joy and a huge privilege… This view has been renewed each time
I’ve visited churches and people in other countries. I’ve been in more than 20 different countries in the past 10 years, some of them highly developed , but many developing. From each new place I have learned from and appreciated the differences that cultures and context make and the commonality of our humanity. We can all laugh and sing in harmony! I also recognise that the difference between the rich and the poor in our world is a scandal, one that we in fist world countries have to address urgently and unrelentingly. I learned about post-colonial mission as empowerment of everyone. And… the whole world is endangered by climate change and we have a huge responsibility to mitigate its effects.
Retirement is good! Time to be creative in fabric art and garden is very good! Simple things bring great joy!
With many blessings
Ka kite
Arohanui
Well first of all - there is nothing so wonderful as a family, especially one that understands the preciousness of belonging together! We have three wonderful children with delightful partners and we have become a grandmother 4 times - having been present at the birth of 3 of my delightful grandkids. We are also part of a huge whanau of amazing folk, some who are family by birth, some by choice!
The church as we knew it is dying, but the Spirit will lead us into a new ecclesiology, if we join her. Leadership in the new church is about servant leadership - rather than claiming places of power.
To be blessed by living in this beautiful small country , Aotearoa, is a joy and a huge privilege… This view has been renewed each time
I’ve visited churches and people in other countries. I’ve been in more than 20 different countries in the past 10 years, some of them highly developed , but many developing. From each new place I have learned from and appreciated the differences that cultures and context make and the commonality of our humanity. We can all laugh and sing in harmony! I also recognise that the difference between the rich and the poor in our world is a scandal, one that we in fist world countries have to address urgently and unrelentingly. I learned about post-colonial mission as empowerment of everyone. And… the whole world is endangered by climate change and we have a huge responsibility to mitigate its effects.
Retirement is good! Time to be creative in fabric art and garden is very good! Simple things bring great joy!
With many blessings
Ka kite
Arohanui
Thomas, Norm - Pasadena, California
I have found a new purpose in living. As a type-A personality, I had found fulfillment in working hardto achieve high goals that I set for myself. To achieve them maintaining physical vitality was essential.
I've been helped by Richard Rohr to envision the years ahead as a "falling upward and onward, into a broader and deeper world, where the soul has found its fullness." Rohr speaks to me as he writes: "Until and unless you give your life away to others, you do not seem to have it yourself at any deep level." (Falling Upward, 2011, 153, 154).
I've been helped by Richard Rohr to envision the years ahead as a "falling upward and onward, into a broader and deeper world, where the soul has found its fullness." Rohr speaks to me as he writes: "Until and unless you give your life away to others, you do not seem to have it yourself at any deep level." (Falling Upward, 2011, 153, 154).
Thompson, Catherine - Pasadena, California
I Have Learned in the Last 10 Years…
That I am living a life that I did not expect to live. In fact, I have
hardly gotten to do what I planned my life to be! Slowly, I am
accepting gratitude for what I don’t have, and to be content with my
own brokenness and the light that comes through to trust God and
‘the beyond’. I have also learned and come to expect…that
relationships and governments will always disappoint…they are
based on people, and people fail, sooner or later. I have learned that I
have enough, even in the worst of times. I have learned much
through hardship and the obstacles placed in my path. Some other
things that I have realized … that it’s OK to be local, that I can make a
difference because I am comfortable in any setting. It seems God has
only set a place for one in my life and on the path of aloneness I have
learned that the spiritual life is the most important life. I am inspired
by my many students of ages 4 to 98 and that people are hungry for
beauty. It seems that I am to share beauty through music. I have also
realized that I have to be the right person in every situation. As a
music director, leading a choir, and as a private piano teacher, flute
teacher, and vocal coach I have witnessed that if I tell people that
they are capable of learning or performing something and really
believe it…even though they don’t, they improve and achieve more
than they expected. Also, God is present even in the company of
those that do not believe. The atheist is always afraid of believing or
experiencing ‘spirit’ and the religious is always afraid of doubt. This I
have witnessed countless times. People will appease and rationalize
anything to give themselves permission to break the law or behave
badly…I witness this weekly and have gradually learned to have
compassion for their fear to confront themselves and be accountable.
I have learned from working with children that honesty starts in the
home I am always where I am supposed to be…also, freedom is more
important than turning one’s self inside out to obtain love…and
music saves, too. I have seen many a life change for the better
through music.
Happy Birthday Jim, and may music be with you all the days of your
life
That I am living a life that I did not expect to live. In fact, I have
hardly gotten to do what I planned my life to be! Slowly, I am
accepting gratitude for what I don’t have, and to be content with my
own brokenness and the light that comes through to trust God and
‘the beyond’. I have also learned and come to expect…that
relationships and governments will always disappoint…they are
based on people, and people fail, sooner or later. I have learned that I
have enough, even in the worst of times. I have learned much
through hardship and the obstacles placed in my path. Some other
things that I have realized … that it’s OK to be local, that I can make a
difference because I am comfortable in any setting. It seems God has
only set a place for one in my life and on the path of aloneness I have
learned that the spiritual life is the most important life. I am inspired
by my many students of ages 4 to 98 and that people are hungry for
beauty. It seems that I am to share beauty through music. I have also
realized that I have to be the right person in every situation. As a
music director, leading a choir, and as a private piano teacher, flute
teacher, and vocal coach I have witnessed that if I tell people that
they are capable of learning or performing something and really
believe it…even though they don’t, they improve and achieve more
than they expected. Also, God is present even in the company of
those that do not believe. The atheist is always afraid of believing or
experiencing ‘spirit’ and the religious is always afraid of doubt. This I
have witnessed countless times. People will appease and rationalize
anything to give themselves permission to break the law or behave
badly…I witness this weekly and have gradually learned to have
compassion for their fear to confront themselves and be accountable.
I have learned from working with children that honesty starts in the
home I am always where I am supposed to be…also, freedom is more
important than turning one’s self inside out to obtain love…and
music saves, too. I have seen many a life change for the better
through music.
Happy Birthday Jim, and may music be with you all the days of your
life
Valentine, Mark - Arcadia, California
Valentine, Kim - Arcadia, California
Valentine, Grant - Arcadia, California
Valentine, Megan - Arcadia, California
Williams, Kathy Lee - Los Gatos, California
I’ve learned that nothing can be taken for
granted. I already knew that, but I forgot
and did it anyway. I took for granted
romantic love, that people would be who
they portrayed themselves to be, my great
health, that everyone else would have the
same. The funny thing is that when you
don’t take things for granted, every day can
be full of wonderful surprises.
Surprises like friends and family outreaching
with overwhelming compassion when I
really needed it, like my husband displaying
so much astounding love, smiles and
good deeds from strangers and close ones
alike.... It makes you know that life is
precious and wonderful, that every moment
counts.
granted. I already knew that, but I forgot
and did it anyway. I took for granted
romantic love, that people would be who
they portrayed themselves to be, my great
health, that everyone else would have the
same. The funny thing is that when you
don’t take things for granted, every day can
be full of wonderful surprises.
Surprises like friends and family outreaching
with overwhelming compassion when I
really needed it, like my husband displaying
so much astounding love, smiles and
good deeds from strangers and close ones
alike.... It makes you know that life is
precious and wonderful, that every moment
counts.
Author - Unknown
